Food - You can call me late for dinner, but you can never call me late for dessert! Pictured at the left is a piece of decedent chocolate fudge cake that I purchased at Valli Produce in Rockford, IL.Dish - We have spent the vast majority of 2008, and most of our life for that matter, searching for answers to many of the events that life happens to throw our way. When the events are of a happy nature, not much searching is required, we simply accept that it is supposed to be; either because we believe we are deserving of, or we have the firm belief that life is meant to be made up of good things.
Contrarily when bad things happen, these events are what shatter our belief that life is made up of "all things good, fair, and deserving." They leave us grasping, sometimes, begging, for answers that can somehow explain why certain things happen to us, or to those around us. These questions are the questions that we would rather not have had thrust upon us; nudging us to search for an answer that somehow makes sense out of a seemingly senseless event.
Not all of us have the same events thrust upon us that need answered, but collectively, we have had many similar ones. But when these senseless events happen to us, we sometimes feel lost and all alone in our search. As if feeling lost and alone isn't bad enough we have "well meaning people" give us explanations such as: everything happens for a reason, God knew you could handle it (what, that means you are too weak? - I'll take being weak then), time heals all wounds, it was his or her turn to die, something good will come from this, it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved before, it was never meant to be, when one door closes another will open...and the menagerie of one liners can continue for as far as the day is long.
Part of life's events happening is the shock that it has happend to us, as if we are immune to them. We would all like to think that life's bad experiences will skip us; and maybe some of us are fortunate enough to say that they have, but I am not immune. For I have suffered the loss of a loved one when I was young, I have endured the pain of a broken heart that I thought was never going to mend, and I too, have felt the disappointment of unfulfilled dreams. And while all of these were earth shattering events, that no amount of answers could ease the pain of, the search for the answer has led me to who I am today.
Truth be told, most of the answers to life's questions can be found in all genres of music, poetry, quotes, and books written by people who have walked before us, behind us or beside us that have experienced many of the same things. Proving that we need not be alone, if we choose to reach out to those "well meaning people" around us.
When good things happen to people they sing of: "Trees of green, skies of blue, the colors of the rainbow and people saying I Love You! (What a Wonderful World)
But when something bad happens to people they sing: "Sometimes in our lives we all have pain. We all have sorrow. But if we are wise. We know that there's always tomorrow. Lean on me, when you're not strong. And I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on." (Lean On Me)
How do you mend a broken heart? How do stop the sun from shinning? What makes the world go round? Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again. (not many answers her, but a bea-u-ti-ful song, none the less. Search on.)
For those who feel sad and all alone at Christmas they think of songs such as this one by Joni Mitchell: "It's coming on Christmas. They're cutting down trees. They're putting up reindeer. And singing songs of joy and peace. I wish I had a river I could skate away on." (However, there have been other times, Christmas withstanding, when we feel the setiment of the last sentence and we wish we could escape from it all and we say - I wish I had a river I could skate away on.)
Dr. Suess has been quoted saying: "Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple."
Whenever evil befalls us, we ought to ask ourselves, after the first suffering, how we can turn it into good. So shall we take occasion, from one bitter root, to raise perhaps many flowers. - Leigh Hunt
Like so many Americans, she was trying to construct a life that made sense from things she found in gift shops. - Kurt Vonnegut (This quote may explain why women love gift shops so much.)
Whatever your mood may be, you can always find a song, a poem or a quote that can help ease the pain. If these don't ease the pain, at least you were distracted from your problems for just one brief moment in time. If this distraction hasn't helped, call a friend and find something, anything, to laugh about....they say; "Laughter is the best medicine!"
http://www.poemhunter.com/songs/joy/http://www.quotationspage.com/qotd.html
http://www.brainyquote.com/
Embellish - If I have one person that I can call friend, then I am truly never alone.
No comments:
Post a Comment